Friday, April 6, 2012
Week of April 2 - 8 / Question 2
There have been a handful of situations where forgiveness was last on my list of priorities. Almost all involve close inter-personal relationships having gone array, usually resulting in a period of mutual ex-communication, then followed by something like an apology. At some point enough is enough, we move on past our differences and continue with our friendship. There have been many times where I’ve found it difficult to forgive, but I can honestly say I’ve never found it impossible. On a side note, I’d much rather it be a guy whom I’m arguing with. We tend to argue it out, say what we need to say, then move on. There isn’t always an official apology, but we know whats up. Women, on the other hand, are a completely different story. In my own experiences, I see that women carry around much more “emotional residue”. This can be difficult for men to grasp in relationships, usually getting us into trouble.
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I can relate to the fact that you usually always find it possible to forgive as I am someone who tries to put issues in the past and move forward. I think it is very funny (and true) that you pointed out men are more quick to reconcile than women as women tend to rehash and dramatize the situation. If ever I am in some sort of conflict or confrontation with one of my close girl friends, my boyfriend is always shocked at how a small issue could be turned into such a big deal. I envy the fact that most guys are able to just sweep the issue under the rug and move on with their friendships!
ReplyDeleteI admire that fact that you said you can find it difficult to forgive someone but never find it impossible. I wish it were that easy for me but, unfortunately it is not. Sometimes I find it very difficult to forgive someone if they do not even apologize to me in the first place. This class has taught me A LOT! I have learned to communicate better which has made it easier for me to apologize to someone else. I always take a deep breath and admit when I have done something wrong and I own it. It just makes life that much more enjoyable and peaceful.
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