People have had, and always will have, a negative view of conflict. It starts at a very young age, we lack the skills to appropriately handle even the most basic of problems, leaving us with feelings of unease and apprehension. We fight and argue and have negative conflict experiences, which means, as this pattern would suggest, we learn to associate conflict with pain.
Yes, I think the more people learn about conflict the less they fear it. An important thing to understand is that conflict can often be productive in building a relationship (as opposed to destructive) if handled appropriately. The more we engage in conflict the less we fear it, simply because we grow accustomed to it. While this may not always be a good thing, being comfortable dealing in conflict situations is a necessary ingredient to finding resolution.
Thursday, May 10, 2012
Wednesday, May 9, 2012
May 7 - 13 / Question 2
What I liked most about this class was the pacing and choice of textbook. So often it's easy to get lost in an online course, not knowing whats due or when it's due. I felt that our professor did a great job at keeping students involved and in the loop as to what was happening for each week. I exchanged a few emails with her when I had various questions and always found her response to be both quick and helpful.
My only "dislike" may have been the amount of comments we were asked to make on other peoples postings. At times it felt excessive, like I may be repeating myself or just filling in space. The whole "commenting" idea i've seen in every single online class i've taken at SJSU. It's a useful idea in someways, although it gets rather repetitive.
My only "dislike" may have been the amount of comments we were asked to make on other peoples postings. At times it felt excessive, like I may be repeating myself or just filling in space. The whole "commenting" idea i've seen in every single online class i've taken at SJSU. It's a useful idea in someways, although it gets rather repetitive.
Monday, May 7, 2012
May 7 -13th / Question 3
This is really the perfect question to end the semester on. For me, it all goes back to
S-TLC. This very basic principal encapsulates pretty much all of what a conflict in communication course should be teaching students. In chapter 15, we read over the different components which make up each of our worldviews, we studied the concept of “other”; all if which can be traced back to the “T” or “Think” in S-TLC. Chapter 8 dealt with managing anger, and all the problems often associated with it. If I had to sum up chapter 8 in only one word to someone, I might simply say - STOP. All other forms of conflict resolution will flow naturally after this initial pause. It’s something we often forget, we allow ourselves to get sucked into a situation without due time to sort things through in our head. Most of us, if we give ourselves the chance, can find much more satisfying conclusions to our problems if we follow S-TLC.
S-TLC. This very basic principal encapsulates pretty much all of what a conflict in communication course should be teaching students. In chapter 15, we read over the different components which make up each of our worldviews, we studied the concept of “other”; all if which can be traced back to the “T” or “Think” in S-TLC. Chapter 8 dealt with managing anger, and all the problems often associated with it. If I had to sum up chapter 8 in only one word to someone, I might simply say - STOP. All other forms of conflict resolution will flow naturally after this initial pause. It’s something we often forget, we allow ourselves to get sucked into a situation without due time to sort things through in our head. Most of us, if we give ourselves the chance, can find much more satisfying conclusions to our problems if we follow S-TLC.
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